A Problem Shared… I Caught My Daughter Smoking

A Problem Shared Health | by | 11th Mar 2016

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Dai is a dad from Gwynedd. He’s an ex-smoker yet he recently found his 15-year-old daughter smoking cigarettes. He’s asked A Problem Shared…. for advice.

I caught my 15 year old smoking and I’m not exactly happy about this state of affairs.

I obviously want her to stop but what can I do to make her listen?

The issue is that she knows that I started smoking at that age and she thinks I’m being a hypocrite. I don’t smoke anymore and I think of myself as an ex-smoker now. For my sins, I did used to smoke in front of her when she was younger.

I’ve not had any serious illnesses related to my 25 years’ smoking, not yet anyway, and she seems to think she’ll be fine because I was fine, but that’s no guarantee is it? She says she’ll give up way before I did, but I want her to stop now.

She knows it’s bad for her health but she either doesn’t care or doesn’t think it’ll happen to her; how can I make her see sense when she thinks I’m a hypocrite?



Our FamilyPoint advice to Dai

Thank you for getting in touch with us regarding your daughter smoking, I can see that you feel strongly about the situation. At the age of 15 as you will understand most young people may feel that they know best, so rather than trying to stop her yourself by telling her, it may be an idea to get some information leaflets on the negative effects of smoking – showing graphic photos etc and taking the softer approach of coming to a compromise with her having a look at the leaflets herself.

It may be an idea to have a look together at the NHS smoking site, as reading the facts may have more impact to your daughter.

The Filter, run by Ash Wales, is a very good site that you could may be have a look at together – this is aimed for young people therefore very appropriate for your daughter.

Another interesting web site is Gwynedd Ni.

If you feel you need some general support you could also contact Family Lives on 0808800 2222 , they give parental guidance and can provide you with further information that may be of help to you.

If you feel this is something you’d like to talk to us about in more detail, you can contact us by phone – 0300 222 57 57, text – 07860 052 905 or instant message.

We are open Monday – Thursday 6pm – 10pm and Friday & Saturday 10am – 2pm.

We hope this information helps and that it all works out ok. We wish you and your daughter well.

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