This week is Anti-Bullying Week (14th – 18th November 2016). So here at FamilyPoint Cymru we’ve teamed up with Meic to provide a guide that parents can share with children that are being bullied.
Bullying is a horrible experience. Although it’s cruel and cowardly behaviour, the sad truth is that some people continue to bully even as adults; it’s not something that disappears once you finish high school. That’s why, as well as teaching children to report bullying, it’s important they learn how to cope with bullying behaviour, building resilience so it can’t hurt them as much.
Meic, the information, advice and advocacy helpline for children and young people in Wales, have shared some common advice they give to young people who contact them about being bullied.
If your children would like to talk to anyone about bullying or other things, they can contact Meic. Meic is the national information, advice and advocacy helpline for 0-25s in Wales.
They can contact Meic by
They are open between 8am and midnight. The service is free and anonymous.
1. Understand that if you’re being bullied it’s not your fault and you’re not alone.
Bullying is learned behaviour which some people use to hide or cope with their own problems. Reasons someone might bully include unhappiness; being bullied themselves; insecurity and jealousy.
2. Share what’s happening to you with a close friend(s).
Friends who you can trust and who would be happy to walk/be with you when the bully is around. People are less likely to bully you when you’re with friends. You could also speak to a member of staff in your school/college, like a counsellor or well-being officer.
3. Protect your feelings from name-calling and hurtful behaviour.
If someone says something hurtful to you, imagine yourself catching the words and throwing them into a dustbin! Follow that with a positive thought or view of yourself, such as, “I like myself”, or “I’m smart”; you’ll be surprised at how powerful this can be.
4. A powerful self-defence tactic is to walk confidently away from the situation.
This will not only help to keep you safe, but send a strong message to the person doing the bullying that you’re not prepared to be drawn into it. You can say something neutral like, “See you later” as you leave.
5. If you feel safe enough, speak to the person who is doing the bullying.
This might help to resolve the situation. You may find out they’re not even aware of how much their behaviour is affecting you. If the bullying is more serious and involves (or may involve) physical violence, speak to an adult you feel you can trust who can help put an end to the bullying.
6. Try out some new hobbies or do more of the things you enjoy.
Participating in positive activities can do wonders for your confidence and well-being, as well as giving you the opportunity to make new friends who share your interests. Feeling good about yourself and having a network of good friends can help reduce the impact of bullying behaviour on you.
Exercise has been proved to make people happier, reduce stress and keep you healthier. If you’re worrying or feeling stressed about bullying, try doing some physical activities, such as taking a long walk, swimming, and playing team games.
8. Find out if your school/college has a peer/mediation scheme.
Mediation can help with issues of bullying, conflict and relationship breakdown.
9. Speak to Meic or a similar service.
They offer free, confidential advice and the support you need to make a change.
Some great websites to get more anti-bullying support:
Want to find out about services available to you and your child in your area? Would you like to chat about family matters in general? Then get in touch with the FamilyPoint Cymru helpline.
- Phone: 0300 222 57 57
- Text: 07860 052 905
- Instant message (see top of page)
We are open 6pm – 10pm Monday to Thursday and 10am – 2pm Friday & Saturday.